Reality

One thing you realize as you get older is that you cannot change anyone. You may try, thinking if you love them more, coddle them more, treat them differently, conversate that somehow you can get someone to budge but, it will never work and it can be very hard to deal with.

People do as they please.

It's like an alcoholic on shows like Intervention. The entire family is urging them to go to treatment but, the alcoholic says no way and so that is how it goes.

I really like the book, "He's just not that into you" for that very fact. It basically states that if a guy is not calling, texting or paying attention to you, well guess what, he is just not that into you" But, is it that simple? Why do we as women always rationalize things. Are we too scared too face the truth?

Do we want so firmly to believe that another explanation must be the case that we end up fooling even ourselves?

Perhaps if we were more realistic we could move quicker from the heartbreak and blows of the end of a relationship.

However, things are so much easier said than done. I have friends who can read empowering female quotes till the cows come home. Hear how worthless he was from dozens of friends but, still go home and deal with it alone and it's back to that haze of reality again.

If only we could be mind readers life would probably be much easier but, until then it's best to trust ur gut. We usually know what is going on but, are afraid to accept it as truth. Accept it. Deal with it and Move on. Reality may bite but, it's called reality for a reason.